In the Blink of an Eye: Cherishing the Time We Have with Our Kids

Has it really been 10 years already? It feels more like two months. Where did the time go?

One minute, they were 7 and 8 years old, playing rec soccer and running around with muddy knees. A minute later, after hundreds of games, practices, tournaments, and countless hours on the sideline, one is a high school senior heading off to college, and the other is entering her final year. The speed of it all is dizzying, and it makes every parent pause and ask the big, uncomfortable questions.

It has been a true blessing watching these two sisters play everything from soccer and softball to basketball and volleyball. I can't believe how quickly it all went. Take the time to cherish every moment, the time truly does fly.

The Inevitable Self-Reflection

As my granddaughters step into adulthood, I find myself looking back and reflecting on the journey. These are the thoughts that rush in when you realize the time you have is limited:

• Did I do a good job? Was I supportive enough?

• Did I challenge them just enough to grow, or did I push too hard and cause them to quit?

• Did they enjoy their childhood? Did they have fun?

• Did I add joy to their activities and events, or did I unintentionally add stress?

• Did I prepare them for adulthood? Are they taking life lessons with them that will serve them well?

• Did I do what was convenient for me, or did I always do what was best for them?

  
  

These questions are universal. They are the hallmark of any parent watching their child spread their wings. And for my granddaughters, the answer to the most important question is a resounding yes: they are ready, and their mother did an amazing job.

The Difference Between Perfect and Present

Were there challenges? Were there mistakes? Absolutely. That is simply a part of parenting. No journey is perfect.

But what truly matters is that there was, and always will be: support, love (sometimes tough love), listening, and unwavering encouragement. There are two strong shoulders to cry on when things go wrong and two strong hands ready to high-five and celebrate every victory. That foundation is what prepares them for everything.

I want to encourage every parent reading this to take a breath and truly enjoy this time you have with your children. It really does go by in the blink of an eye.

If you take only one thing away from this, let it be this: Please try to add joy to all that your children do. Being a kid is already stressful enough with school, social pressures, and their own self-doubt—we don't need to add to their burden. Be present, be supportive, and remember that a childhood filled with joy is the greatest gift we can give.

If you are looking for some introspection from a father, grandfather and a coach who has made a lot of mistakes and learned the hard way, then check out my book "The Car Ride Home" by Mike Bergstrom.